Friday, October 24, 2008

When a patient doesn't react

The other day, I had to give a lady news that I would consider the most devastating news anyone could give me at my age (and she was just a few years older than me), even worse than a diagnosis of cancer or sure death. I can't say that she didn't react, but she didn't react the way I would have. She told me she didn't understand how this was possible, but she didn't cry, she didn't scream, she didn't act as though she was devastated.

As a christian physician, many thoughts were going through my mind. Does she just have such a great relationship with the Father, that she has so much peace and doesn't need to feel devastated? Is she in denial? Does she understand what I just told her? Is it possible that she just doesn't care?

As her physician, what am I supposed to do when she doesn't react? Where does my responsibility end? Do I just ask her if she has questions, be sure I explain in common language, and then let her leave? Do I need to ask her why she is not reacting, is that any of my business?

I did ask her if she had any questions, I did explain everything in common language and I asked over and over again if she understood, then I told her what she should do next, and I let her leave. But I do not feel my responsibility ends there. I have been praying for her since she walked out of my office. I know that I can not do anything more for her, and I am not sure the specialists can either, but our Great Father in Heaven can heal her in so many ways. He can heal her physically, He can heal her emotionally, and He can heal her spiritually.

2 comments:

Cliff said...

Becky,I believe as a doctor you did everything you could for the patient. She may be in shock right now and will come back later to ask for help. As a Christian we can Pray and ask the Father to intervene for us to bring healing. He may be waiting to use her to perform a miracle. We just need to Pray and put our trust in God. Please keep me informed.
Cliff

Kristin Baker said...

What a beautiful story of the heart of a Christian doctor. Miss you!